There are many benefits to meaningful relationship. It is a relationship where each member is a winner. A meaningful relationship adds value to all involved parties. It is long-lasting, loving, caring and trusting. It’s a healthy relationship where each member is celebrated rather than tolerated. This blog offers 7 steps to develop meaningful relationships.
Step 1 Be Self-aware: “This is important in relationship building because without such awareness it is impossible to develop meaningful relationship. No one can truly know others without first examining him or herself. People who are self-aware often possess the necessary confidence to pursue meaningful relationships. They’re not concern about what others may think about them. The more self-aware you are, the more you can accept yourself, accept others and enjoy life abundantly…”
Step 2 Be Selective: “Do not be misled: Bad company corrupts good character” (1 Corinthians15:33). If you want to develop meaningful relationships, you must interact regularly with those who share similar mindset, interests, values and activities. The law of attraction is best expressed when like-minded people are united harmoniously to achieve a definite goal. If you want to achieve greater successful, joy and happiness, you must select your friends and associates wisely. Your friends and associates can make or break you. “Associate yourself with people of good quality, for it is better to be alone than in bad company” (Booker T. Washington).
Step 3 Be an effective communicator: “To be a great communicator, you must be a great listener. This is what the book of Proverbs says on listening: “He who answers a matter before he hears it, It is folly and shame to him” (King Salomon, Proverbs 18:13). There is a reason why we have two ears and one mouth. Perhaps, God wants us to listen twice before we speak. Listening is a skill that we all can develop over time.
Step 4 Be loving: What’s love? It’s a strong feeling of affection and concern toward another person. “Love is Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance… love will last forever!” (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).
In developing meaningful relationship, love is very important. It gives you the patient you need to stay in the relationship. It can help you to cooperate with others for a long period of time. It takes lot of patience to cooperate with others. Love is the fuel for building healthy relationship.
Love will help you accept your friends, family and others just as they are. When people around you go through life changes, your love will be used to support them.
Step 5 Be friendly: “The friends we attract are the result of the seeds we have sown. It is true light always attracts light. There is no relationship between light and darkness. An apple tree cannot produce oranges. It will always produce apples. Likewise, we often attract who we are. If you want meaningful friends, you must first become a meaningful thinker and pursue meaningful friends. You must attract those who share your values, who are able and willing to be in relationship with you. If you want to be treated with friendliness, respect and love, you must do the same to others.”
Step 6 Be trustworthy: “Trust is essential for building meaningful relationship. Without this foundation, no relationship can really stand. Trust is to a relationship as oxygen is to the body. All meaningful relationships must be based on MUTUAL trust in order to grow and thrive.
What is trust? Trust is both an emotional and a rational act. Emotionally, it is where we expose our vulnerabilities openly to people and believe they will not take advantage of our honesty. Rationally, it is where we have calculated the probabilities of gain and loss based on previous experiences and data that leads to the conclusion that the person in question will behave appropriately. Trust is love. Trust is a firm reliance on the integrity, ability or character of a person or thing. It is having confidence in something or someone. It is self-confidence. It is the ability to depend on someone despite knowing the possibility of failure,”
Step 7 Be committed: “From my studies and experience as a counselor and life coach, I discovered that fear is a primary reason why some people shy away from commitment. They are afraid of being hurt. They often think that opening their hearts in relationship again may be too risky. Therefore, in order to protect themselves they keep their hearts closed. If you were hurt in a dysfunctional relationship, it is best to address your fear of being hurt in a healthy relationship, for love drives out fear. Anyone who shies away from commitment due to unresolved fear will not be able to develop meaningful relationships. A counselor can help you address your fear of commitment.”
As you develop MEANINGFUL, MEMORABLE and MUTUALLY beneficial relationships, it is important to find people who are capable, available, realizable and dependable to helping you achieve greater success, joy and happiness. Likewise, you must help them achieve their goals as well. “You can have everything in life you want; if you will just help enough other people get what they want” (Zig Ziglar).
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